we are all born mad. some remain so.

sure, in a dating situation both parties try to be at their best, but as a relationship progresses, they should let their hair down and be themselves. guys do this naturally, even brag about it "what you see is what you get, baby". why should the woman wear a mask? a bad day is a bad day, regardless of gender.

dont play games. be yourself. be honest, and if hes not interested, then hes the wrong man for you. you set your standards, a good character, a sense of humor, responsible, sensitive, intelligent, caring, and then let a man come along who has those qualitites and treats you with respect.

choosing the right guy is going to affect every moment of every day of the rest of your life. women dont sublimate their frustration with a game of golf or tennis match. so YOU do the choosing, according to YOUR standards.

its a fact that women survive being alone much better than men do. men, who've been coddled their entire lives, suddenly find themselves having to grocery shop, do their laundry, clean up after themselves. it can be a terrible shock. most men will stay in a relationship if their basic needs are met. if they're fed, allowed to watch the TV sports they want, and occasionally get sex, they'll stay forever.

the truth- what most men really want is for someone to take care of them. that being accomplished, the ancillary annoyances, frustrations, rages and disappointments all become as the roaring of great apes, the barking of dogs. accept it for what it is, grousing. food, clean clothes, TV, a tolerable amount of grousing, food, sex, TV, sex- you've got a man forever.

however, if you think your relationship is not working and you're considering a breakup, stay realistic. you have to say "i'll be happier alone." be sure thats what you're really thinking, not "i'll be happier with someone else." if you're truly unhappy, you'd better hope that you have the self confidence and the resources to go out on your own.